Posts tagged ‘change’

Free to Forgive

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When I feel hurt it is usually because someone did something or said something – or maybe did not say or do something.
Then I feel I am not able to forgive them – perhaps I don’t want to forgive them.

What is it that I want from them? To change, to feel the hurt, to feel regret?

I need to step back and realise that by not forgiving them I am holding onto the feelings of hurt and remembering them again and again…. building walls of impression and vision which will influence the future.

In the process of forgiving, I am letting go but also subtly helping the other person to let go as I am no longer ‘holding’ on to them with negative thoughts and feelings.

When I forgive I make peace with the past. It does not change the past but it allows the possibility of so much more in the future.

Forgiveness takes place in my own mind and heart … It has nothing to do with anyone else.

 

Om Shanti

February 23, 2017 at 12:39 pm Leave a comment

Why Hurt?

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Someone said something, someone did, or did not, do something and I am hurt by that. No matter how much I wish to stay in a positive and happy place, it seems as though others influence and change that. They continue to hurt me and cause me pain and sorrow.

However the fact is that I have no control over anything or anyone except myself. When I deeply and practically learn to accept this in my life then I will realise that no one can ever hurt me. People can behave as they wish to but it is what I do with someone’s negative behaviour – the shape and power I give that negativity inside my mind – that will decide if it causes me to hurt or not.

It is not an easy lesson to accept but the reality is that how I choose to respond is entirely in my hands. .

Let me empower the self by applying this lesson practically in my life from this moment onwards. Let me chose to remain happy.

 

Om Shanti

July 28, 2016 at 7:19 am Leave a comment

Am I a puppet?

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When others act in a way or say things that I view as not ‘correct’ it gives rise to questions such as – ‘why can’t they behaviour differently?’

Questioning in this way, about something or someone that is not in our control, will undoubtedly cause disturbance within my thoughts and thus my feelings. If I hold onto these over time then they can lead to irritation and anger.

I may be a perfectionist, I may want people to be ‘good’ all the time but this stems from having the attitude of superiority. Subtly I feel I am better, I would not behave in such a manner and hence I place myself in a position to judge and criticise others.

I may well view myself as being ‘perfect’ but this habit of projecting my own values and standards on other – looking at others and judging them – always leads to me de-stabilising my own self mentally and emotionally. The moment I feel myself getting upset or angry with a situation then it is time to turn within and and observe the self..

Irritation or anger cannot arise without either there being ego of the self, or attachment to a person or idea or even the greed of wanting more. These seeds of negative qualities give rise to negative feeling.

Whenever I find myself being emotionally and mentally challenged – it is an opportunity to check the self from within and change the seed. If I don’t do this then I will forever be a puppet which is controlled by what is going on around me.

 

Om Shanti

January 21, 2016 at 9:35 am Leave a comment

Change is the only Constant

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Try as we will nothing ever stays the same. Each moment that passes is a new one. And yet so often we find ourselves avoiding, ignoring and even fighting changes that come into our lives.

Change is more acceptable perhaps if we have control over it. However when we do not have control, we are sometimes overpowered with fear and insecurity. Our defense mechanisms become alert and we prepare for battle.

Understanding that change is the only constant, will set us free. Choose to welcome change as a blessing in disguise, and we may just start to experience newness in our lives. It is a wonderful gift the universe offers us – to learn and grow constantly.

What will I choose to be today? – a stagnant pool of water – standing still, or a flowing river always ready to go with the flow.

 

Om Shanti

August 27, 2015 at 7:25 am Leave a comment

Destiny

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They say that whatever is destined will happen.

Whether I win or lose, whether there is happiness or pain … it is predestined.

But who is it that holds the pen that writes my destiny? Who decides whether I will experience sorrow and pain or happiness and joy? Who is it that decides?

We may be surprised to learn, we may even dis- believe, that the one that holds the pen that writes our destiny is I and only I!

It is the Law of Karma – action and reaction are equal and opposite. The seeds I chose to plant today will determine the fruits that I reap tomorrow.

It is an accurate and absolute law…there is no escape from the results of karma. Today, tomorrow, next year or even next birth…it will give its return.

And about God, what can He do to help?
He cannot change my action and so He cannot change the result of my action – it is as simple as that.

I am the one that chooses my every thought, my every word and my every action …. therefore let me choose wisely!

 

Om Shanti

February 19, 2015 at 8:00 am Leave a comment

Mirror of the Mind

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My mind is a mirror – whatever is in the mind is reflected in my life and becomes my truth

I cannot ignore the mind nor is it possible to run away from it.

Within the mind I create thoughts. These thoughts are seeds that I plant which then grow over time. The seeds become the fruits and flowers of tomorrow. They can also become the weeds and thorns!
My mind holds the key to my future – for a bright future or a sad one.

If I hold sadness and bitterness in my thoughts, If I hold sorrow then that is what will be reflected in my life – that is what I will experience tomorrow.

Do I have the courage to change the thoughts that I hold in my mind?
Do I even want to create beautiful thoughts, positive thoughts, or do I want to hold onto that which is sad and bitter and now even old?

Whatever is going on inside my mind – I need to see it and realise it – and then decide ‘Do I want to change it?’

 

Om Shanti

February 12, 2015 at 9:18 am Leave a comment

Embrace Change

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When things around us remain the same then we adapt to them and become comfortable in that physical or even mental and emotional space. We begin to feel ‘safe’ and ‘secure’ in that which we know. Why disrupt the status quo?

However life is a journey and we are in fact moving all the time. Even on a physical level, the cells in our bodies are regenerating themselves constantly. Change is a fact of life.

When we try and resist change then it becomes a challenge and thus the enemy. If we understand change and try and embrace it then we will realise that change is actually beneficial. Change enables us to increase our potential, allowing us to learn and grow. It brings newness and allows transformation to take place.

Stand up and embrace change don’t resist it.

 

Om Shanti

August 21, 2014 at 7:03 am Leave a comment

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